When Love Is On a Wire?

The big challenge in life for many couples and just how far can they break over the years the routines, ie the ups and downs that interfere with relationships. For most people replace the spouse on the other, seems the best option as they understand the possibilities of remote and become scarce. The fact is that change wives or husband, never was and never will be a good option, since over time the same or other major problems, banks will for disagreements.
What do you do when love is showing signs of cooling, endangering the unity and love of the couple?
1.Enfrentar problems in front, bluntly.I personally do not know any couple who had relationship problems.Disagreements inevitably will affect more or less day to day life of the couple at rates lower or higher depending on the situation.Fleeing the problem or always leave and then, as if ignoring it, you can increase the feeling of impossibility of the solution. So the front face, eye to eye and needed. Talking about the reasons that led to emotional distress seems to be too obvious and appropriate for each type of conflict.
2.Entender the difference between emotions and decisions can be of help.Unfortunately there are relationships that are founded on emotionalism. All appropriate actions, individually or collectively are based only on the emotional state. And we know that we can not nor should we rely on our emotions, because they are poor.Want to see some examples: Do you remember your time of dating in relation to the time you spent together. In fact, the priority was to stay together and not enjoying it? What happened after the wedding frenzy that remains? The passionate kisses are still in evidence or simply have been decreasing over time until you reach the peck or maybe not even that. What about sex practices? At the beginning of the marriage was all day, then 5 times a week, then 3, 2, 1 time per week. And today you can not remember when was the last time?
But after all, which creates this disparity, which often do not stop to think? The emotional part is that every human being and that this in evidence, the emotions, must be accompanied by good decisions, good choices. Are good choices that generate positive emotions, and not vice versa. In fact you should start your day working on your mind in the direction of these choices. Your marriage relationship will improve when you understand that part of the success of it, is in how to manage your emotions in terms of good choices. In other words, every day you choose to love your wife, your husband when you do it and trusting in God, the emotional is acting on behalf of you and love will warm up again if it is to be desired.
For the man:Look. You can choose:
Love your wife every day, telling him truthfully catch phrases like:I love you babyYou are special to me
- Do not criticize any part of your body and your age or stress.- Help her every chance you get services from home
  -Help her with her children: Taking them to school; Examining tasks; Taking for a walk, etc..- No anti-patizá it with comparisons to other women- Send her flowers with occasional declarations of love- Respecting their tedious moments, especially in periods of menstruation, where the woman gets more nervous.- In every place always have eyes for her.- Do not interfere when your wife is calling attention to disciplining the children or- The practice of sex being affectionate and understandable not to hurt her.- Compliment her every day- Avoid raising his voice and treat problems without verbal and much less physical.- Never lie. Speak only the truth.- Asking for forgiveness every time you make a mistake against her.- Respect your individuality.- Do not play the jealous husband, creating embarrassing situations in the relationship.- Arrange for quality time out together.- Pray for her and with her all day.
For women:Look. You can choose:
- Respect the decisions of her husband, even though some of them are not very good there.- Leave to criticize or speak ill of him with his family, neighbors or friends.- Good times to have sex, without haste and without charges when he seeks it.- To have as a permanent goal, to live within the family budget.- Being on his side in difficult moments of life.
  Do not interfere when your husband is disciplining the children or calling attention- Not to oppose her love romantic before, during and after the time of intercourse.- Avoid raising his voice. Treating the problem without much verbal and less physical.- Never lie. Always speak the truth.- Asking for forgiveness every time we make mistakes against him.- Avoid being a jealous woman.- Arrange for quality time out together.- Choose the best time to present issues home.- Respect you as an individual- Pray for him and with him all day.
While both seek to make good choices for sure emotions come into play to make the marriage stronger and stronger, healthy and long lasting.
Remember: good decisions, good choices every day, good emotions that solidify the marriage.Author: Pastor Nelson R. Gouvea